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Hi friends, it’s been a while.

I’m here today with a confession: I took a big unplanned hiatus from blogging.

I was burnt out, I was dealing with a lot of changes in my personal life, I was struggling to find how to connect with you as a reader, I was going through a lot emotionally, and I wasn’t able to tap into my creative brain and write.

I needed to take a break. Now I’m back, feeling refreshed, re-focused, and ready for a new beginning.

I’ve always been honest with you here about what I’ve been going through. I’ve shared with you important things in my life such as overcoming my driving anxiety, attending college with chronic illnesses, and my emotions around graduating college. A lot has changed in my life since we last talked, and I wanted to share it with you.


 

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Where I was:

I started Dani Dearest on my first day of college, over 4 years ago. During my entire college experience I blogged, went to class, and worked multiple jobs. I thrived off of the busy, hectic, high pressure and high energy environment of it all. Dani Dearest quickly grew more than just a blog, to a community focused on helping college women excel in their life and studies.

Then I graduated in May 2018, and started my life in the full-time corporate world. Ironically, even now that I was working full-time, I had more free time on my hands than I did when I was in school, and yet I felt more exhausted at the same time. I didn’t know what to do with myself. I continued to write, slowly transitioning Dani Dearest from a college/university focused site to more millennial lifestyle focused, kind of “growing up” the blog alongside me.

Then in November, everything changed. If you’ve been following me on Instagram then you saw my updates as this happened and you know that I grew up in the town in California that experienced a mass shooting and two enormous wildfires back to back in November.

Thankfully I was not there during the shooting, but I had many friends that were, I knew some of the victims, and I had been to that bar many times. Thankfully my house and my family’s houses survived the fires, but we were in an evacuation zone, and it was definitely the most terrifying week of my life. Our community was forever changed.

While all of that is a long story for another time, it really did affect me. I didn’t really know how to process it or deal with it. On day 3 of the fires I was sitting in my bedroom, all of my belongings packed in my car in the driveway ready to be evacuated at a moments notice, and I opened my laptop and wrote. I typed out everything that I had experienced throughout the last couple of days, and continued to add to it as the week progressed.

Writing has always been how I have processed my emotions, and putting into words how these tragedies had affected me was incredibly important to me. Not a single day has gone by since then where I have not thought about those tragedies.

Since that night, it has been really difficult to feel the creative desire to write again. I missed it… I missed blogging, I missed this community, and I missed writing… but I just couldn’t get myself to do it for some reason.


 

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Putting Pressure On Myself:

As time moved forward, I decided to throw more focus into my career. I have always wanted to work in entertainment marketing, but as I had quickly learned, getting any job in the entertainment industry was incredibly difficult.

I was stuck in one of those “you need 3 years of experience in this industry to get a job in the industry that gives you experience” loops. I had applied to job after job, gone on a few interviews, and continued to stay stuck at square one.

No matter what I did, I felt like I wasn’t good enough. I was putting an impossible amount of pressure on myself. There I was, having graduated from college less than 6 months prior, working a solid full-time job that used my degree and had good hours and great coworkers, and I was mad at myself for not yet having my dream job.

Nobody was putting this pressure on me but myself. I felt like I was stuck at a standstill, like I was a failure, like I wasn’t moving forward at all.


 

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Everything changed:

Then, everything changed all at once.

My boyfriend, Anthony, suddenly got a new job. It was one of his dream jobs, that he had been telling me about since we met back in high school.

A week later, I sent my resume to an acquaintance whose roommate was working for a large entertainment company that had a job opening. I’d applied to similar openings in that company easily 20 times… but this time the day after I sent my resume over they asked me if I could come in to meet the team.

The day after, I went in for an interview. It’s the only time I’ve ever actually had fun in an interview.

Two days after the interview, they offered me the position.

The day after I accepted, I put in my two weeks notice at my job at the time.

Five minutes after I quit my job, I took a co-worker out to coffee to let her know that I’d be leaving.

2 minutes after I told her that I was leaving the company, I got in a car accident. My car was rear ended. It was totaled. I had to go to the ER, I had a concussion and I had to take 3 days off of work.

3 days later I left for a previously planned vacation where I was a bridesmaid in my best friend from Kindergarten’s wedding for 4 days.

The week after that I finished my last day at my previous job, and two days later I started my new job.

The first day of my new job just so happened to also be my boyfriend’s first non-training day at his new job.

On my second day of work my family’s childhood dog passed away.

I worked during all daylight hours, and my boyfriend worked during the night. We legitimately passed each other on the freeway going to and from work every single day, and didn’t see each other for 2 weeks due to our crazy schedules.

A week later, he got into a car accident and his car was totaled. Complete dejavu.

Now here we are, with two new jobs and two new cars in about 1 months time.

Life really changes fast.


 

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Where I am now:

Throughout all of this mayhem, one thought has remained a constant in my head: I missed my blog. I missed the writing, the story telling, the community, and the work that I put into all of it. I missed reading other blogs and chatting with my audience online, I missed sharing parts of my day, and I missed being creative.

I wanted to make sure I did this right.

I didn’t want to come back from this blogging hiatus for a week or a month and then disappear again. I wanted to make sure that I was in a place with my life, my career, and my mental health where I was able to incorporate blogging into my routine again without getting burnt out repeatedly anymore.

During my time away I’ve been planning, as I do, and I have some fun things planned for the future of Dani Dearest.


What’s coming up?

First, I am going to continue to write blog posts myself. Back to basics.

Second, I’m growing my Facebook group: The Quarter Life Crisis Club. This group, co-led by my best friend Sara, is a community built out of the Dani Dearest focus “helping millennial women succeed in their lives and studies” and is a great place where anyone experiencing a “quarter-life crisis” can come to vent, share, ask questions, seek advice, and help others. Interested in joining? Check it out here!

Lastly, and most importantly, I want to get back to helping you. If you’ve been around for a while here you know that my biggest focus is helping you succeed, get the advice you’re looking for, and enjoy what you read here on Dani Dearest. But sometimes, I can be hard to know what you’re looking for unless you tell me! To help this I’ve created a survey.

This survey takes 2-3 minutes of your time tops and will help me check-in with you and better understand where you are in your life right now, what you’re struggling with, how I can help, and what you want to see. Please take a moment to fill out this survey and help me help you!


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Happening: I’m Back & Life Update

7 thoughts on “Happening: I’m Back & Life Update

  • April 11, 2019 at 2:10 pm
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    Wow, you’ve been through a lot! Life comes at you fast and I think it’s wonderful you took time to process and heal. Congratulations on the new job and welcome back to blogging! I look forward to your new insights and stories in this next chapter 🙂

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  • April 12, 2019 at 5:15 am
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    I can definitely see why you needed a break. Wow! Lots of crazy stuff happening. Hopefully life stays on a positive track now! Great to hear you’re getting back into your passion with blogging!

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  • April 12, 2019 at 10:56 am
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    Sorry you went through that extremely tough time. I’m glad you’ve found your way back to writing and hope you keep your head up. These dark seasons don’t last. 🙂

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  • April 12, 2019 at 1:19 pm
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    Wow! I can completely understand why you needed to take a break! I’m sorry that you had to go through all of that!

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  • April 12, 2019 at 5:24 pm
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    Wow, this past year has been insane for you and I can def see why you took a break— I would have too! You can only move forward from here and I hope this year starts getting better for you!

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  • April 12, 2019 at 7:16 pm
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    Wowww Dani! It’s so great that you’re back blogging again – thank you for being so honest and sharing your story so openly. I admire your strength and candor so much

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  • April 13, 2019 at 1:10 pm
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    OMG Dani! That’s so crazy. You have definitely been through a lot. Sometimes life throw us rocks (all at the same time) when we least expect it. You are very strong! That break was needed for sure!

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